Clyde Eugene Buff Junior: Funeral

Buffy, Clyde and Sara's oldest son an my mother's oldest grandchild passed away January 31, 2014.  He had a sudden heart attack.  His funeral was February 8.  It was a very somber occasion.  All of us siblings were there, but Dianna and Mark left early to catch a plane. 

Mom and us three sons

Mom and two daughter (Diana left early)

The ceremony was very nice.  Dillon and Geneve sang "Please Remember Me."  "Please Remember Me"

When all our tears have reached the sea
Part of you will live in me
Way down deep inside my heart
The days keep coming without fail
A new wind is gonna find your sail
That's where your journey starts

You'll find better love
Strong as it ever was
Deep as the river runs
Warm as the morning sun
Please remember me

Just like the waves down by the shore
We're gonna keep on coming back for more
'Cause we don't ever wanna stop
Out in this brave new world you seek
Oh the valleys and the peaks
And I can see you on the top

Remember me when you're out walkin'
When the snow falls high outside your door
Late at night when you're not sleepin'
And moonlight falls across your floor
When I can't hurt you anymore

Garrett sang "Go Rest High On the Mountain"
"Go Rest High On That Mountain"

I know your life
On earth was troubled
And only you could know the pain
You weren't afraid to face the devil
You were no stranger to the rain

[Chorus:]
Go rest high on that mountain
Son, you work on earth is done
Go to heaven a shoutin'
Love for the Father and Son

Oh, how we cried the day you left us
We gathered round your grave to grieve
I wish I could see the angels faces
When they hear your sweet voice sing

There was a video tribute made using the song "Forever Young."
Forever young, I wanna be forever young
Do you really want to live forever?
Forever and ever

However, this funeral was profound, and the grief and pain were profound.  Reminded me of the song from Les Miserables, 

There's a grief that can't be spoken.
There's a pain goes on and on.
Empty chairs at empty tables
Now my friends are dead and gone.

Parting and grieving is so hard.  I hope everyone can get through it.
There were other people there of course.

Dillon, Rachelle, Mom

Sue

Brianna, Kayla, Garrett, Bryce

Cassidy

Dianna, Mark, Brandt

Brianna, Geneve

Kelly, Connie

Charlie, Diane, Travis

Katharine

Clyde and Krista talked at the funeral.  Their bishop also talked, about his struggle with alcohol.  Buffy had his own problems, and seven years sobriety.  Many people took time to say how Buffy had benefited them.  Buffy was active in AA and sober riders.  

Some of Buff's Letters to Mom

Grams,   Sorry this didn't get there on time.  I just want you to know you are always in my thoughts and prayers.
No one in my life has done as much for me as you have.  You have always been there.
I wish I was there to say all this in person.  But I love You with all my heart And I hope you have a wonderful Birthday.
Love Always, Buff

Clyde Eugene Buff Jr. "Buffy" passed away earlier this year.  He had his periods of problems and was away from the family for extended periods of time as a result.  These are a couple letters he sent to my mother over the years. 

Clyde Buff Jr Obituary, son of Sara Jane Wardle and Clyde Buff

Clyde Buffy Buff Jr.
 Clyde Buff Jr. "Buffy"
1970 ~ 2014
Clyde Buff Jr. "Buffy" passed away unexpectedly on January 31, 2014 due to a heart attack.
Clyde was born August 23, 1970 in Logan, Utah, the oldest son of Clyde Sr. and Sara Buff. He was raised in Hyrum, Utah and spent most of his life in Utah. In October of 2006, he moved to Boise, Idaho to be closer to his family.
He enjoyed playing softball, fishing, and most of all he loved to spend time with his family and friends. He took pride in his profession as a chef and was the manager of the Buckhorn Restaurant. He was recently recognized as one of the top chefs nationwide for TravelCenters of America.
Clyde was very active in AA and the Sober Riders. He was frequently given the opportunity to share his life experiences and message of sobriety to many. This gave him strength and he took personal pride in helping others find hope in their lives. In September 2013, he earned his 7 year sobriety coin.
Buffy is loved and survived by his parents, Clyde Sr. and Sara Buff; grandmother, Ileen Wardle; his siblings, Krista, Geneve, Kathy, Joey, and Linsey; his girlfriend, Heather Stanton and her children Morgan, Dawson, and Tristan; his pride and joy, his daughter Katelyn; his pug, Toby; many nieces and nephews; and his entire AA family.
A viewing will be held Saturday, February 8, 2014 from 12 noon-1 pm, with a service to follow at Summers Funeral Home, 1205 W. Bannock Street, Boise. Burial will be at Morris Hill Cemetery. Memories and condolences may be shared with the family on Buffy's memorial webpage at www.summersfuneral.com.
GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CANNOT CHANGE; COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN; AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.